Monday, 20 March 2017

THE OVERWHELMED MOTHER IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD


There is this woman in the neighborhood I currently reside in. She has a shop where she sells provisions, food items and…wait for it…even fuel! Her shop is right at the corner and every time I have passed her shop on my way back from anywhere, there always seems to be a myriad of people she is attending to. Let me put this out there. I like her hustle.

Sunday, 12 March 2017

SPEAKING THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE PROPERLY


English is my first language. Though my father is Idoma, my mother Igbira and my birthplace a chiefly Hausa region, English was and is my first language.

Friday, 10 March 2017

GUERRILLA FEMINISM

by
ABE ONCHE



It’s not easy being a feminist.

I can hear the collective hiss and mumble about this one who doesn’t know what the hell he is talking about. From the men who only needed this admission to confirm I’ve been neutered, or from the women who disqualify my experiences because I have a penis. Yes, yes…I’ve heard it all before…either I’m stupid or grossly ignorant, and by no means are those mutually exclusive.

Tuesday, 28 February 2017

PLAYING THAT PRACTICAL JOKE


We all have our food pet peeves and the thought or sight of people eating them gets us in our cringe modes.

I am no different.

8 CELEBRITIES WHO BECAME FAMOUS AFTER 30


Where our parents believed in becoming successful over a long period of time with lots of hard work and dedication, many millennials are super driven to be successful as quickly as they can. It is not uncommon to then see many ‘generation possible’ young men and women set an age cap for themselves.

Tuesday, 21 February 2017

Tuesday, 14 February 2017

THE TRUEST MANIFESTATION OF LOVE 2

Ever story has at least two sides. Every action has at least two reactions. The first was here. This is the second.



The moment Otobrise walked into the house, Tracy Wayemi knew something was wrong. He was mechanical and her husband was never that.

They had been married for two years and had dated for a year before tying the knot and starting their forever. Because he was such an open book with her, Tracy knew what almost every expression, nuance or tic meant. At this moment however, she couldn’t place what brought on his mask.

Monday, 13 February 2017

NOT CHANGING MY NAME WHEN I MARRY


My friends and I have been talking about the name change thing we are required to do when we get married. While some of them cannot wait to be a ‘Mrs. Somebody’, a couple of us are worried about that. Discussing it doesn’t bring any form of reprieve because it is not an easy topic to explain. Even if it was, we know we are not only going to have to deal with our men, but our combined families.

Friday, 10 February 2017

H

By
Abe Onche



Innocence sits on the threshold
He sits, at home in the vacant vastness
Decadent, twisted into silence
By the ravages of a destitute lifetime

Wednesday, 8 February 2017

MARIA UFUA SHAMING THE FAT SHAMERS



Our #WomanCrush today is Maria Ufua.

Ufua Maria is a 28 year old lady from Okhuesan, Esan southeast local government, Edo state. She is a fashion designer and owner of Pure Hand Crafts by Marie, an entrepreneur and a youth and body image advocate.

Take One: THE WEDDING PARTY


So we finally saw The Wedding Party by Kemi Adetiba. We have been huge fans of hers for years and when we heard she was doing her first feature film, we couldn’t wait to see what she would churn out. The rave reviews came in right from its debut showing in Nigerian cinemas. Cinemas were packed ‘back to back to back’ and one couldn’t help but praise the publicity, the celebrity cast and the production team for ensuring that almost everyone had a reason to see the film.

Sunday, 5 February 2017

MAKING ITORO A WOMAN


Ekong Itoro clenched her hands in the anticipation of the pain that would jolt through her in a few minutes. She breathed in quickly…and then slowly, making sure to count to five before letting each breath out. Her back was already drenched in sweat from lying on the pile of clothes in the very hot and fetid room. She could taste the blood at the back of her throat from pressing down on her teeth to keep them from clattering. She could also feel the warmth dripping from between her thighs; thighs she held together tightly as a final act of defiance before she was forced to spread them wide open.

Wednesday, 1 February 2017

CERTIFIED HOMOSEXUAL


I met a lady on my way home and complimented her hair. As soon as the words were out of my mouth, I was engulfed in a memory I shelved a while back.

Tuesday, 31 January 2017

WHY WOMEN SHOULD CARRY THEIR OWN CONDOMS



So I watched this show a while back on ELTV. There was a voices-on-the-streets segment and the question asked was if it is okay for women to carry condoms. Many people gave varying responses but one stuck with me for days. The respondent, a very confident (albeit uneducated) man, couldn’t hide his disdain at the question. He was as against the concept as America is anti-Putin. His closing statement was what got me riled up. He went, ‘Man wey get two woman na still man but woman wey get two man na olosho.’

Thursday, 26 January 2017

TOP 5 BLACK SITCOMS OF THE 90s



The 90s was probably the best time for television, not because they had the best content or the most brilliant technology but because it was television lots of people across the world were tuned to.

JANUARY SONG



January Song ( For Ramat on her birthday)
🌻🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌻

Wednesday, 25 January 2017

Glass, Brillo, Flame & Rock.



By 
Kabir Babiotos

Glass, Brillo, Flame & Rock.

The shortcut to eternal doom they say; the worst of all evil. The fast killer, the baddest bitch; crack! A dance with the devil himself, in a ballroom made of thin glass floors, best to watch your step for you might fall or better yet dare not even get in to begin with. An opulent orchestra with the most majestic tune, it's like a sweet poison or forbidden fruit, one dares not to taste, because like Adam and Eve in that garden long before you and me, things will never be the same again; probably.

Chrysalis



By 
Abe Onche


Think of me again as a new creation
As the time of rebirth heralds itself
And as I contemplate the vast potentials
Of a new year, a new life

Wednesday, 18 January 2017

LONGEST SERVING AFRICAN LEADERS



Africa is plagued with people who are so intoxicated with power that once they are in a place of leadership, authority or governance, they are unwilling to step down until pushed out. We seem to be the most likely group of people to turn a democracy into a dictatorship and it usually doesn’t matter if it is in the home, office or government. 

Today, we discuss the longest serving leaders in Africa and why they need to go!


Listen to the podcast below! 





Tuesday, 17 January 2017

THE RISING COST OF SANITARY PADS


Sanitary Pad
Image: Panty Props

When you are a team of mainly women, you have to deal with many issues that generally affects us. One of such issues is our menstrual cycle. This affects us at least once every month. Yes, we used the word ‘affects’ because it does and because our cycle is a 28-day cycle, there is always the chance that we ‘see’ our periods twice in one more month.

Anyway, we are not here to lecture. We are here to rant the fudge off.

Monday, 16 January 2017

DR. MARTIN LUTHER KING JR: NOT JUST A DREAMER


Our man crush is Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Dr. Martin Luther King was born Michael King Jr. on January 15, 1929. He was an American Baptist minister and human rights activist. He was also a leader in the Civil Rights Movement. He is best known for his role in the advancement of civil rights using nonviolent civil disobedience based on his Christian beliefs.

Friday, 13 January 2017

WHY FLORA NWAPA MATTERS



The first thing that hit us today when we went online was the Google Doodle showing a black woman in what looked like a field of corn seemingly planting (or harvesting) books. We were piqued. Who was this woman?

Thursday, 12 January 2017

5 THINGS YOU PROBABLY DIDN'T KNOW WERE INVENTED BY BLACK PEOPLE



Black people are awesome and many times, we don’t get the credit we deserve. All through history, we have always Created or contributed to the creation of ingenious inventions for the advancement of human kind.

Wednesday, 11 January 2017

UDUAK-OBONG JACKSON: WRITING AGAINST SUICIDE



Our woman crush is Uduak-obongJackson.

Uduak-obong Jackson is from Akwa Ibom state, Nigeria, and is a creative Writer and spoken word Poet. She is a graduate of Nassarawa State University where she studied Sociology.

Monday, 9 January 2017

TURNING 28…AND NOT REPEATING MY MISTAKES



Our founder wrote this to commemorate her birthday and from all of us at SHADES OF US, we want to wish her a wonderful birthday today. Happy Birthday Ramat!

SHADES OF US: UNVEILING OUR NEW LOOK



Hey.

So we have been making some noise about changes we want to make and the time is finally here.

Thursday, 15 December 2016

MINDING YOUR BUSINESS


One of our previous posts, ACCEPT YOUR HUSBAND LIKE THAT, received some praise, a healthy discussion and some backlash. We were very happy! If we have people talking about the issue, we must have done a good job. But before we tell you more about our glee, let us discuss some of the issues raised.

Tuesday, 13 December 2016

CHUDE ON THE GOVERNMENT, GLOBAL COMPARISONS AND THE FUTURE PROJECTS



We sat with Chude Jideonwo, Co-Founder and Managing Partner of RED MEDIA AFRICA, and we talked about many aspects of the Nigerian life; from youth participation in government and governance, social media, activism and advocacy, to his work with his various institutions and the likes.
Chude Jideonwo didn’t hold anything back. He expressed his views clearly and succinctly and it is a direct call to the Nigerian youth to wake up to our nation building responsibilities.

Watch the concluding part of the interview after the cut.

Monday, 12 December 2016

ZION OSHIOBUGIE: FROM HOUSE BOY TO ENTREPRENEUR



Our #ManCrush is Zion Oshiobugie.

Zion is a 29 year old entrepreneur, teacher, and On-Air-Personality with Crown 89.9 FM, Warri. He is the CEO of Clever Minds Integrated Services, a consultancy firm offering training and educational services to the public in the same city and its environs, aided by fifteen employees working in three learning centres.