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Disclaimer: This post has lurid
details of sex.
I was
scrolling through my timeline on Facebook when I stumbled on a post which,
under other circumstances, would have thrown me off. The thumbnail was a naked
black girl on all fours with what I could deduce was sperm on her face.
Normally, I wouldn’t watch such videos and would report it to Facebook to be
taken down for being a sexually explicit content but the caption stayed my
scrolling fingers.
‘Ghanaian
girls are suffering abroad.’
Lot of
thoughts ran through my head; was this a rape video? Did it talk about human
trafficking? Was this a human rights issue that we should be talking about? And
so I knew I had to see the video.
So I
clicked.
The video
was roughly five minutes long and it was the most chilling thing I had seen in
a while. From what was said in the video, I can summarize it thus;
The girl
saw an ad asking for adult film (porn) actors who could deep throat. She went
to the film makers and they agreed to shoot. The scene required that she has
sex with two white men. The video started with the girl choking on the penis
she was trying not to suck anymore.
It was obvious watching it that she was in grave pains. This was expressed in
the tears running down her face and the sheer look of sadness in her eyes. This
was the point where the person with the camera started talking.
‘You said
you could deep throat. Did you think you could just waltz in here and collect
our money when you couldn’t do what we asked? You have just wasted our time you
fucking bitch.’
It wasn’t
what he was saying that got me angry. It was the condescendingly calm tone with
which he was talking that nearly broke me. You could tell that the man didn’t
think he was talking to another human being on equal footing. It is the same
tone you would expect a member of the Ku Klux Klan to take when addressing a
black person. I knew at that moment that the girl’s underperformance was not
the issue. These were full blown racist men who wanted to demean and dehumanize
a black woman.
As if to
punctuate that thought, the men started slapping the girl. It didn’t end there.
They spat on her face and other parts of her body. They were doing all these
while still penetrating her from behind and trying to get her to suck their
penises.
When the
girl tried to hide her face in the pillows – something I think was a mix of
shame and pain – the man behind the camera asked that she look into the camera.
In a classic good-cop-bad-cop move, one of the other men slapped her face and
the third guy slapped her buttocks. She looked at the camera, crying, and the
camera man zoomed in on her face just as a large plop of saliva landed on it.
She flinched but maintained her gaze on the camera.
The man
behind the camera continued to talk, asking her why she thought she could just
come in and take their money. When she didn’t respond, one of the other men
slapped her again to prod her into speaking. She spoke, through her tears, in
what was the only words to come out of her mouth. ‘I don’t know.’
At this
point, it finally dawned on the men that she couldn’t suck their penises
anymore. So they decided to, for lack of a better word, ram her as roughly as
they could.
Bad cop 1
told her to touch her toes and started pounding her as hard and as roughly as
he could. My spirit broke when I saw her move an inch away each time the full
length of his penis entered her vagina. He taunted her, asking ‘where are
you going you cunt?’ When he was done, the other guy – who was now
wearing her wig – took over. He tried to get her into a position that had her
buttocks jutting out at him but she kept falling; from what I would think was
exhaustion. Angry, bad cop 2 removed her wig from his head and tried to force
her to wear it while simultaneously slapping and pushing her.
And the
video came to end.
I was so
ashamed at what I had seen. Not ashamed because it was sex but because I just
witnessed the dehumanization of another woman – a black woman – by men who thought it was okay to do so because
they were offering her money. I was ashamed at the conditions that made a woman
believe that this was the only way out. I was ashamed at being
unable to do anything to improve the straits of the woman whose shame I had
just witnessed.
I went
into the comment section, hoping there were many people who were as outraged by
the video as I was and were willing to do something about it. I was shocked by
most of the response I saw. While many agreed that it was barbaric to have kept
on ‘sleeping with her’ when she was in pain, many pointed out that it was hard
to feel pity for her because she chose to do the ‘job’. Others
even said she deserved it because of her ‘lack of morality’. Some people asked
why she continued to shoot when she couldn’t take the pain and that was the
point that caught me.
Why did
she continue to stay? Why didn’t she end the shoot?!
Whatever
answer you choose to look at, one thing is clear; she obviously needed the money. And that there is the
problem. I agree that she chose to do the work, but staying when she was being
abused, demeaned and forcefully penetrated showed that her need for the money
far outweighed the pain she was going through.
Many
scenarios went through my head until a new one took over. What if she was a
victim of trafficking? Since the caption talked about Ghanaians suffering
abroad, it was not hard to come to that conclusion. What if the girl in the
video was a victim of human trafficking and needed that money to give her
pimp/Madame? This thought stuck in my head for a bit. Not just because of the
girl, but because of the many stories I have heard of human trafficking; stories
so savage it begs to ask if the traffickers have any humane bone in them. I wondered.
I have
come to the conclusion that she didn’t deserve that poor treatment. Nobody
does! But I know there will be no outrage. There will be no trending
hashtag. There will be no anger. These men would walk the streets safe even
though what they did was forced sex or better still, rape. What would happen to the girl? It may just
be a continued cycle of racism and abuse for her.
People
believe that sex workers are the dregs of society and so when bad things happen
to them, these people show no empathy. When sex workers are raped or murdered
for example, most of us just sigh and deep down, think they deserve it. I have
heard people say prostitutes cannot
be raped because they are already sleeping with many men. Even when these
ladies – and I can imagine some people balking at that term – go to the police
when they are in trouble, the police takes advantage of them because of their
occupation. No one seems to be in their corner but themselves.
I think
this is wrong.
Most of
us don’t know the underlying reasons that push people to sell sex for a living.
While it is a choice for many women, it is forced on others by
poverty, domestic abuse and human trafficking and the extent to which this
happens would shock most of us.
I think
we have to reorient our minds. Sex workers are as human as we
are. They deserve the same rights that we do. They need to be
protected by the system. No one deserves to be abused; whether
we agree with their work or not. So can we stop the violence against sex
workers?! It is high time we also stopped contributing to this violence with
our silent voices and judging eyes.
So do sex
workers deserve to be abused? I say NO!
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